For most of you reading this, I’m sure you can empathize with me.  The trouble is that you can’t tell a person’s personality by how they look on the outside.  A gorgeous shape and smile could just be a mask.  And behind that mask?  A monster, waiting to take all your money and ruin your life!

While it would be easy to become bitter and stay at home all day, there is a solution.  There are better ways to get proper dating matching.   Try meeting people outside of singles bars and swanky, expensive restaurants.  Look for that special lady somewhere less stressful, like an online dating site like itsjustlunch.com.

By broadening your search to look for the person underneath the image, online dating sites do away with a lot of the false positives.  A full profile let’s you find out what makes someone tick, without the costly investment in meals and alcohol.  Best of all, most of the leg work is done by the site.  They can coordinate your schedules, find the right day, and even pick the restaurant where you meet your potential match.  I know I could sure use the help navigating through this dating world.  Maybe you can too.  It’s certainly worth trying if it will help you find someone with the looks and  the personality you want.

Men and women on the dating circuit are very picky creatures.  Consider your own reaction when someone of the opposite sex approaches you.  You judge them on how they move, how they look, what they are wearing, how they smell.  You do all of this unconsciously, and immediately.  Before the potential suitor has even opened his or her mouth, you’ve got an opinion formed.

But now consider the effect that the right words can have.  Maybe you don’t like “the look” of someone that is approaching you, and you are making up an excuse not to talk to them.  But if that person says something clever or funny for their style of dating introductions, it may be just what the doctor ordered!
By telling jokes, or making a witty observation, you yourself can make that change in someone’s mind.

Regardless of how you look and what you’re wearing, you can always start the conversation off right.  Remember this when you are trying to meet someone.  Don’t tell her that she’s beautiful (save that for later!) or that he’s dreamy.  Instead, try a knock-knock joke.  It will ease the tension, and make the interaction less about trying to pick someone up and more about trying to get to know them.
This doesn’t work for everyone.  Maybe you don’t even need to tell jokes because you are so good looking.  But for every Fabio, there is a dozen Jerry Seinfelds, and we could all use a date.

The first step is the simplest, and often times the hardest.   Saying that first line, making eye contact, the first smile, they are all so important.  But don’t get caught up on what you say.  Instead, you should focus on how you say it.  You’ve heard it before, but confidence is the greatest aphrodisiac in the world.  A confident walk, an even tone of voice, steady eye contact.  All of these things tell a woman that she is talking to someone worthwhile.

The next best piece of dating advice women love is also simple: be a good listener.  When you are talking to someone (especially someone new) you should use your ears as much as you use your mouth.  That means when the other person is talking, you should be listening to them, not using that time to think of what you are going to say next.  Good listening is the first step towards good communication
If these two tips sound too good to be true, don’t take my word for it.  While you are online, look at other dating sites, like Yahoo Personals, or EliteMate.com, and see what their experts say.  I guarantee you’ll be better for it.